“I AM SO UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN I HAVE TO WAIT. I FEEL BORED. I FEEL UPSET. THERE IS NOTHING TO DO.” (JON, AGE 6)
Jon’s parents were concerned about his frustration and “big feelings” he displayed when he had to wait, when he didn’t have a friend over, or when they didn’t give him a set schedule of activities.
In our sessions, I supported Jon to sit in this discomfort. Yes, to actually realize that his feelings were “his choice” and that at any time he could decide how to create, how to use his time, and how to engage with me. This looked like us taking our first journey… We used our imagination and I asked Jon where he would like to go.
He decided to take us to the top of a volcano. It was described as hot, dangerous, and very uncomfortable for our bodies. We peeked into the volcano, we moved quicker around it, we even attempted to touch it. We were definitely stuck, trapped and without much options. Then, Jon said, let’s put on volcano protective gear. He used his imagination and created an adaptive alternative to being stuck. Later we explored how he was able to problem solve and stay engaged even during the discomfort.
He expressed to me and to his parents that he had fun. That he didn’t feel pressured or that he was annoying anyone and that he was given permission, for the first time, to actually have to figure it out. His parents felt relief, they understood that he was ready to tackle his own challenges and that they could join him and play along too!
Do you feel stuck and unsure how to tackle difficult moments with your children? Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to support them during these moments. Email me at email@example.com or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org