“I don’t want to leave the playground. I am not leaving!”  (Sarah, age 4)

When Sarah’s parents are asking her to stop her activity, move to the car, leave the playground or head to bed, they experience a fight. To her parents, they want life to feel easier and to have a home with less upsets. Sarah’s parents work and have a new baby at home, and two cats. Life is full and beautiful and NEEDS TO FEEL SWEET not DIFFICULT.

When I entered the home at 4pm, I watched how Sarah observed everyone moving quickly around her. She sat quietly playing with her dolls in the corner of the room. I saw her slowly walk to the table, eat a piece of apple and then sit on the couch. I saw her tighten her musles in her stomach and hold her breath as she turned and yelled for help to the toilet. Her movements were slow paced, directly attending to one task at a time, and appeared heavy in how she sat and moved.

Her family on the contrary, moved quickly around the space, as airy and light as a feather, her mother floated from room to room, changing diapers, feeding the cats and typing on her computer.

I had to support this family to read one anothers timing; to see how they could join together at the same pace (one person being the chosen time) and then move collaboratively. We tried it first Sarah’s way. Mom moved slowly with her as they both walked to the table to sit for dinner. Then we took turns and Sarah moved like mommy to get her dolls, to get her shoes on and to run outside to the yard. The two of them laughed as they followed one another’s timing. When Sarah moved I identified how slow she was able to move, I marveled at her choices, and gave her permission to increase the tempo when she wanted to. She smiled and within a moment was moving quickly.
Within this session, the focus was to omit negative blaming, to decrease or remove upsets and place attention on the timing and rhythm of the interaction. With a clear intention Sarah’s family could connect to one another. Sarah could learn and feel she was safe in her environment and she did not need to fight.

Additional sessions will work on language, schedules, and more transitions but for starters this family has made TIME for one another!

Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to support their comfort, development, and connections! For more ways to learn how to embody parenting and support your child through life, Email me at therapy@drloribaudino.com or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.

Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.

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