“Why do my children get so out of hand during the holidays…jumping, breaking, screaming, and seeming to not listen to me?“ (mother of 3)
Therapeutic support for children means support for their parents/careproviders too! So when Stephanie told me about her family dynamics around the holidays, while her chidlren cheered and jumped around my office, I knew we had to work on the 3 P’s.”
Our first session, gave the family an opportunity to write, draw or tell about their favorite holiday memory.
We sat together and read and described these outloud. We even mirrored one anothers body posture, facial expressions and movements. Stephanie (mom) got to jump like a child in copying her son Ryan’s favorite way to wake up on a non-school day.
We then explored how to 1st P (PRUNE). Pruning meant experiencing what was adored and requested and what needed to be gently brushed to the side and changed.
The 2nd P (PREFERENCE). Preferences meant undestanding the sensory experiences of the holidays. What sounds, sights, textures, smells, were prefererred and what was not. Again, the family talked but moreso explored and moved through feeling and becoming aware of their sensory individual needs. We drew a map to describe who in the family was similiar.
Lastly, 3rd P (PRACTICE). Stephanie’s family got to have several days, weeks, to practice communicating what they wanted to see – ie. “I admire your sitting so patiently at the table,” or “your voice is loud and playful outside the house.”
By exploring these 3 P’s each family member got a chance to communicate his/her needs and ultimately set an expectation for the big holiday moments to come.
When change is coming – season, schedule, expectations, opportunities, connection…it’s important to explore these areas and make time for the best experiences to take shape. With awareness comes peace!
Do you know of a family who could use support? Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to help them improve their experiences together! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.