“I’m not used to making my own decisions, I don’t know?.“ (Robert, Age 15)
Robert sat quietly with his head down. He made minimal eye contact and appeared uncomfortable when asked any basic question about his interests or even his age. Robert did however, move.
When I entered the room he smiled and looked at me. He started to move his fingers each tapping onto one another in a sequence. He looked like he was playing the piano or typing. I asked if I could play too. Together we moved our fingers and he began to increase the speed of tapping, he changed up his finger sequence and patterns. He appeared to be testing me, challenging me and having a great time doing it.
I narrated that we seemed to be making some plans. I admired his ideas and his interests to move and create a dance with his fingers. He stated that he liked having a plan but that he wasn’t used to making decisions on his own.
I gave him permission to decide how to move but also an opportunitiy to follow my lead and share control. This movement activity developed into an embodied experiene for helping him plan his schedule for the rest of the day, plan how to ask for help and to consider that he knew how to make decisions independently.
With this lighthearted intervention, I was able to acknowledge a key part to Robert’s treatment. We could then develop strategies for asserting himself and making choices.
Making plans can be a stifling process especially for someone that fears making the right choice. Movement is are innate way of communicating and with awareness we can spring into action. Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to help foster autonomy and growth. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org