“I don’t want to go back to school.” (Roland, age 7)
Most of you have heard this quote from your children, or even a memory of your own feelings returning to school. But what is it about not wanting to go to school, is it really about school…or something else?
By utilizing strategies to support movement and the body, I was able to explore with Roland exactly what he meant. Roland’s body posture, timing of movements, and intentions during our summer sessions were indulgent. He would leisurely walk into the room, slowly make his decisions and feel no pressure as we connected and I was able to meet him in his moment to moment state. During this session, he paced, he rushed to fit in everything he had in mind, and he questioned whether he was OK to say what he was saying.
I acknowledged the change in his timing and body posture. He was able to identify this as a feeling of “frustration” and “pressure,” he said, “I’m losing time..summer is over.”
Together, we decided to explore the movement quality of time. We moved fast and slow, while discussing and embodying memories of his summer and of his school years. He exhibited tension in his muslces, tightness in his facial affect, and rigidity in his movements when in a fast pace. He then initiated when moving quickly actually felt freeing and energizing. Together we acknowledged that he ultimately had a choice of how to experience these movements and qualitieis in his body.
We concluded our session by discussing with his parents his request for more time and support during this transition back to school. His parents supported his needs and communicated their own need for connecting summer ease into their daily life during the academic year.
By examining the body and movement, a connection was made between the emotional experience of transitioning to school and the ability to embody change and comfort. Additionally, the parents and child could communicate about their needs and make plans for a successful new beginning.
How does your child feel about returning to school? Do you have strategies to ease this transition? Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to help them improve their lives and find solutions by connecting the mind and body. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org