“HOW CAN I HELP MY KID LISTEN TO ME?” (PATRICK, DAD OF 3 YEAR OLD)
Patrick communicated how frustrated he was about his sons lack of respect. He expressed that his son never looks at him when he talks, doesn’t listen the first time he is asked, and seems to always have his own ideas. “How can I get him to listen?”
Utilizing Dance/Movement Therapy techniques of mindful moving – Patrick and his son took turns moving their own body and having the other person describe in narrative what they witnessed. They both developed a new vocabulary for identifying speed, weight, and direction. Each became expert observers, asking each other questions, playing with facial affect and deciding if each could identify what the other was doing without them telling the answer. This playful movement became the start of truly understanding, watching and accepting one another.
Patrick was encouraged to use this language before requesting a demand from his son. “I see you…and now lets..” To his amazement, Patrick communicated, in our next session, that his son was “listening” to him. That his son was actually looking at him when he asked and following requests.
The movement and use of language choices promoted a positive connection between Patrick and his son. Patrick was able to acknowledge his sons needs and in return his son was able to follow through with communication.
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Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org