“WHAT ABOUT ME? DID I DO THAT TOO?” (BETHANY, AGE 5)
When you have siblings you have competition.
Congratulations, you’ve officially started the academic school year and your children are identifying the differences each is experiencing during their time a part from one another in the classroom.
Bethany created a visual picture using toys in the therapy office to indicate her home/school life. She moved each item intentionally and narrated how she felt about her brother and her feelings as identified as, “jealousy, loss, and even fear.”
We connected this visual display by narrating verbally just what we saw in front of us. How we visually read the scene vs. how we felt about it. Bethony noted that her story had her brother in opposition to her – not as a fight but literally in opposite to her toy character (if the toy representng her brother was up high, her character was low; he had space, and she was bombarded with stuff.
We explored opposites in movement and in scenarios. Sometimes, Bethany enjoyed having her differences and other times she saw that her brother and her had a lot in common.
The therapeutic environment supported Bethany and her family to become observers rather than opinionators. They would identify what was happening visually vs. labeling it as good/bad, better/worse, his/hers. The ability to look at the situation through the lens of movement and positioning allows for a connection to the child and between the siblings.
Do you experience sibling comparisons and challenges?Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to help them improve these family dynamics. Email me at email@example.com or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org