“I can’t do that, I am not sure how, I am stuck.” (Alex, Age 10)
Each child has their own unique birth story. Alex’s story, from the beginning, was filled with endless time; a space of indulgence and love. When his mother went into labor it took over 2 days in the hospital before he arrived. At the hospital his mother, the doctors, and his family put every effort into helping him come into the world and yet he still stayed put and was not ready to come out. Ultimately, he made his way through the birth canal and then got stuck. He, again, was met with effort from everyone around him and eventually he was out and in his mothers arms- officially welcomed to the world.
After years of working with children, their birth stories consistently reflect a parallel to their disposition and the manner in which the children navigate their world. For Alex, his story created a child that was met with all efforts to give him the indulgence and love he had since the beginning. And he would get stuck!
When he started therapy, his parents expressed times when he had learned reading, tennis, or even simply getting through a morning routine. Each of the incidents started with a supportive effort from his family and educators and ultimately a moment when the experience became complicated for Alex and he would feel and appear to be stuck. He hadn’t’t figured out how to solve the task nor how to get out independently on his own.
In therapy, we worked to create a new pattern/experience in movement. We explored movement phrases in which he navigated, on his own timing, how to get out of the situation. He worked to figure out options and he independently moved through tasks. We played with speed; exploring getting stuck and instead of being indulgent/slow to have him move quickly. He communicated excitement over his independence, while also, he had an acceptance for his birth story.
His parents also realized his story and that instead of becoming frustrated with him when he wasn’t moving through a request, that this had been the only way he knew how to be; not that he was difficult. His parents informed his other educators and coaches about this pattern – that their son may need a moment when stuck but that he always has and will get through it!
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Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.