“SCRATCH MY BACK. PLEASE GET MY WATER. HOLD MY HAND.” (KIDS 0-18)
Being a psychologist affords me the blessing each day to watch mothers interacting with their children. I hear the children’s constant requests and tireless needs. And, how should a parent support their children by being empathic, responsive and still set limits? This Moving Moment is all about recognizing you, moms, for every moment of being there for your kids.
Sarah, age 4, had experienced trauma. In therapy, I utilized movement explorations of early life – infancy, toddler years to rebuild and recreate safety and exploration between herself and her mom.
Josh, age 3, seemed unaware of his surroundings and often trailed off without warning. His mother worked effortlessly in sessions to use language and movement to support Josh to read social cues, learn the difference between requests vs. expectations and practice language for competency and capability – removing the questions at the end of her statements when she expected him to follow through.
Rebecca, age 13, worked with her mother to see value in meaningful consequences. Her mother practicing how to teach appropriate behaviors and compassion for peers in conflicts vs. threatening Rebecca by taking away preferred items or yelling at her.
Alex, age 7, worked with his mother to stop screaming or making contact to one anothers body when upset. They practiced learning what made their bodies triggered. What their bodies moved like when upset vs. calm and how to use their body to make the more safe and supportive response.
Parenting is the most rewarding and most challenging job. And a job that we, parents can always learn from. Using therapeutic support that involves the body and movement allows expectations, and needs to be not just talked about but to be embodied for growth and healing. Thank you to all the families that continue to seek support for their loved ones.
Do you know a momma that could use a supportive space for parenting needs? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.
Special Thanks to The Andrea Rizzo Foundation. Dreasdream.org