“My daughter is so bossy, she screams and demands everyone to do as she wishes. She freaks out when her food or her clothes are not how she expected. I am worried about what to do for beginning back to school” (Mother of Crystal, age 7)
When thinking about Back to School, I place value on customs and traditions. Identifying those beloved practices that bring warmth to your heart; memories of smells, tastes, sounds. With this, I emphasize creating a space for Back to School in which your children learn how your family celebrates the holiday of School.
When Crystal came to my office, I was immediately taken by her wit, her larger than life smile, and her interest in everything around her. She sat up right, looked at me when I talked, and waited patiently. And yet, her intake paperwork described a child with meltdowns, screaming fits, and a powerful way of controlling her home.
I supported Crystal and her mother to explore the difference between a normal day vs a holiday. Both agreed that Holidays had more traditions and celebrations in their home. Both wrote down their thoughts, both explored in movement what their bodies do during typical days (Crystal raced around the room frantically, while her mother sat still and looked stressed). I immediately new that some positive changes could help this family celebrate change and create a new Holiday tradition.
Fast forward to Back to School…Crystal and her mother planned a way to make the start of School special – they decorated their home, set up the meals, and clothes, and truly got excited about the first day of school. Crystal’s mother decided that the night before school she would fill the house with Crystal’s favorite flowers. Crystal was intentionally given 1 hour the day before to setup her backpack, clothes, and her room to her liking. She was given a purposeful chance to take control. Both Crystal and her mother practiced moving together at the same speed, the same lightness in their step, and directness in their focus on each task at a time.
Additionally, Crystal’s mother learned more with me, about her daughters response to stress/change. She learned language and movements to support her daughter to gain control instead of increasing stress or pulling away.
The first day of school, I watched on video how Crystal came out of her room dressed for her day and was smiling as she took a deep breath to smell all the flowers her mother gave her. She expressed that the “Back to school Holiday” was her favorite!
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Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.