“All you have to do when it’s time to leave is walk over to me and TOGETHER walk out the room.” (Sabine, 8 years old)
Sabine and her mother explored in our sessions the tension that arises everytime they have to transition out of the house, a friend’s house, or at the end of sport’s practice. Her mom felt ignored and disrespected. Feeling guilty for even having a temper, her mother felt like she was done in those moments, and felt very under appreciated.
Sabine explained that she felt torn. On one hand, she could stay in a space of fun (her preferred environment) without any upsets, or two, she could go with her mother and get yelled at and feel sad. So rightfully so, she chose the first option.
These feelings became clear, once Sabine and her mother were guided to use their observation skills to notice how they had been interacting.
- Sabine – moved quickly, a wide grin on her face, with direct intention towards her task (ie. playing with her friend, kicking her soccer ball).
- Mother – moved in a daze (slow paced), limited eye contact, tension in her jaw.
They were not speaking the same body language and definitely not on the same team.
Together, they learned how to observe and match one another’s movements and body language. Together they created a routine, a plan that would allow each of them to feel seen and accepted.
Sabine, new how to play on a team – she huddled in with her mother prior to transitions, made a game plan, and then executed it – with body movement not just words.
Together, they communicated that transitions are now a breeze. They can honor one anothers needs, set specific time, and typically end up arms around one another walking out the door!
Have you observed your child’s body language and your own? Everyday I work with children of all ages and their families to help make meaningful connections, acceptance and increased communication! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at (310) 966-0700 to schedule your time.
Please Note: These stories are based on real moments but all names, ages, and identifying information has been changed to ensure confidentiality and safety for all individuals involved. The events are a composite of related scenarios used to illustrate the work; bringing understanding to the benefits of supporting children through a mind/body connection.