“All you have to do when it’s time to leave is walk over to me and TOGETHER walk out the room.” (Sabine, 8 years old)
Sabine and her mother explored in our sessions the tension that arises everytime they have to transition out of the house, a friend’s house, or at the end of sport’s practice. Her mom felt ignored and disrespected. Feeling guilty for even having a temper, her mother felt like she was done in those moments, and felt very under appreciated.
Sabine explained that she felt torn. On one hand, she could stay in a space of fun (her preferred environment) without any upsets, or two, she could go with her mother and get yelled at and feel sad. So rightfully so, she chose the first option.
These feelings became clear, once Sabine and her mother were guided to use their observation skills to notice how they had been interacting.
Sabine – moved quickly, a wide grin on her face, with direct intention towards her task (ie. playing with her friend, kicking her soccer ball).
Mother – moved in a daze (slow paced), limited eye contact, tension in her jaw.